Wednesday, October 10, 2012

desperate people do desperate things

I used to love Facebook. I had friends and family once. (No, I still haven't gotten rid of them.)

So I spent my time liking things, updating statuses with hilarious quotes or pics of my friends. I spent A LOT of time in the profile world.

I got lots of friend requests from people who knew people who knew people who knew me. People who had no way of knowing me.

And it was terrifying. Not because I was opposed to being friends with strangers but because a lot of them had a fixation on commenting and liking everything I did.

It lead to unfriending. Also, it lead to messages.

Them: why did you unfriend me?
Thought me: I don't know. Please don't kill me.
Regular me: *no reply*
Them: It's been half an hour. Please! Answer.

Is this a cultural thing?

Ignoring went well. After a long time.

Then once, on a teen author's page, there was a similar thing. It was obvious the author hadn't been online yet, because she answered EVERYONE but one person didn't get that. She kept posting and posting. More frantic, more scared. Pushy, angry. And finally...the posts were gone and I assume she was blocked.

I know that's what I would have done.

Call it caution or pop culture, but, anxious people, don't look so desperate. Desperate people do desperate things.

Like murder their idol. O.o

I've had several people do this to me. On Twitter too. They try to engulf me and then I back off. I like my life (and trust me when I say I'll do whatever to preserve it) so don't do something creepy.

Don't be pushy or anxious. You know those Chinese finger puzzles? Where fighting it won't free you? (Please don't quote that to me. Creeptastic.) Well, fighting for me or someone you're obsessed with won't get you anything but fear and caution. And a restraining order.

The more you tug me, the less of me you'll get.

So remember, reign it in. Don't obsess. Be calm.